You ruminate a lot and don’t know how to trust your gut (even after years of therapy)
You feel guilt, shame, fear and/or are the target of a smear campaign after setting a boundary or standing up for yourself
You’re struggling to achieve your goals because you don't think you're good enough or you might fail so why even bother?
You’ve gone low/no contact but you can still hear the narc’s voice in the back of your head and it won’t STFU?
It’s easier to blame yourself than accept the narcissist’s behaviour
Are you sick of being invalidated by mental health professionals, trying different modalities to heal, trying to get to the root of the problem but nothing seems to be working?
My process - Learn+Unlearn, Release, Re-build, and Maintain might sound like an easy 4-step process, but I've broken it down into a 9-module, 12-week group coaching program so you can get the maximum benefits and do this inner work at a better pace than trying to do it all at once.
Here’s a glance at the program…
NO! You can start your healing journey even if you still live with the narcissist, they don’t have to be completely out of your life before you can start prioritizing your sanity. Plus, when you start to do the work - you never know, your living situation just might change way faster than you think!
Unfortunately, if you can’t find a trauma-informed therapist or one who actually understands narcissistic abuse (outside of what they learned in a textbook), they probably won’t be able to help you. It’s sad, but the truth is that if therapy didn’t help you - it only confirms that there is nothing wrong with YOU. The issue was with your abuser, but since you were the one going to therapy the focus had to be on YOU and how you could have done things differently. It’s a great way to make no progress. Plus, this isn’t therapy - this is coaching. Coaching is where you go when you’re ready to move forward with your life instead of analyzing the past - and it actually helps to be coached by someone who has been through what you’re currently facing and they made it to the other side.
There’s no such thing as “fully healed”. If anyone tells you otherwise - it's probably another scam, just like the whole concept of closure. Healing is a journey, and one that never really ends-look at it like a lifestyle change. If you went to the gym for 12 weeks would you just quit after because you're done working with your personal trainer? Try and look at your healing journey the same way. At the end of the day, you are the one who is in charge of your healing - so if you show up and do the work, you will see results. After the 12 weeks, it doesn’t mean the work is done, but you’ll know exactly what the work is, how to do it, and you’ll have actual, useful tools (and lifetime access to those tools, and a whole support community) that you can come back to whenever you need them!
Then it’s your mother! The narcissist was my mother too - I have been there, I get it, and from experience I can tell you that you don’t have to continue carrying her shit! You’re still allowed to heal even if it means healing from your mother. It’s completely normal if you feel guilty or terrified about this!
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